Health: Why Infertility Persist In Marriage .
Part 1
By Olusegun HOSEA. 11th June, 2024
Marriage is honorable and Blissful when couple understands themselves very well. This Institution as established by God Almighty to be enjoying by men and women on earth till death do them apart. But most a time some challenges are hindering progress between the marital vows made by the couples.One of this problem is what we referred to as Infertility which has made some marriage fall apart due to inability of the Bride to have fruit of the womb. A findings was carried out by the Exponent Magazine News with some experts in the field to assertain what is actually called Infertility, the causes , implications and probably the solutions or way forward.
Mrs (Pastor ) Adamolowo Victoria, a retired Midwife from the Redeemed Christian Church of God Maternity whose major function was to care for the pregnant women by taken delivery of them in the Maternity shared her experience on the subject matter. According to her, the problem of Infertility between the couple was not an easy experience at all. She said there was need for them to unite together if they want to solve the problem of Infertility in their marriage.
She explained that if they didn’t unite ,there would be may problems. She was of the opinion that both of them need to be prayerful if they wants to overcome the challenges of Infertility in their marriage.
Why talking about the pressure from the in-laws both father in-law and mother in-law, Mrs Ayamolowo said there would be many advice from them especially from the father side most a time if the marriage has stayed for years without child. She if the couple are both Christian they would be able to overcome the challenges coming from their inlaws but if they are not Christian, it’s likely that they yied to the pressure and do otherwise which according to her may not be too good . In her narrative, she said Infertility can also affected a virgin lady or women.
She explained that she had seen such cases like that why she was practicing as a midwife before retired at age sixty. According to her, a virgin lady that was deflower by her husband also faced with the challenges of Infertility. When asked what was the causes, she said it’s difficult for one to explain such cases . She went further by saying that though some people may have involved in in promiscuity while they are still young and some still kept their virginity and yet they are still having issues with child beatings for long periods of years.
Causes of Infertility.
Mrs Ayamolowo explained some causes of Infertility to be caused by attacked sometime from spiritual battle from the evil people. She said experience has shown that some women have a male pelvic bone in their body-Women or some woman womb is very small to the extent that she could not carry baby . All these are factors that are causing Infertility in the marriage.
Another causes responsible for infertility in marriage could be miscarriage . She said this normally occurred at time to some women that have involved in series of abortion during their useful age and when it’s time for them to get pregnant it would now be to difficult as most of them would now have miscarriage.
She said though it was not in all cases that this normally happened as some of them who lived a rough life , having series of abortion could be Lucky not to have miscarriage and they will give birth to their babies.
She also considered other factors like marine spirits woman who had vows in their spiritual world not to give birth to her husband in the physical world. She explained that some have spiritual husbands who have given birth to their husbands in the spiritual realm while they would not allowing them to give birth to their early husbands because of this. In her words ” Some women if you see them, their breast will swear up and big in their body and tommy when they get pregnant or giving birth in their realm of spirit. I even saw one when I was working in my place of work when she wanted to put to bed. She said , ha! allow me to go, I can’t give birth in this maternity as my husband does not hear the crying of a baby, let be going…” She said the woman was referring to her spiritual husband on that day.
A prayer of deliverance was conducted on her and later the woman , started begging them not to tell her physical husband what she said when she came to her senses. Also, the Infertility may be natural at time without anybody know the causes of the problems.She also talked about vibroad which is preventing the sperm from penetrating to the ovary as this could cause woman from having pregnancy and that was why you see some women going for a medical operation before they could get pregnant.
She also said that, it was not advisable for husband and wife to be living far away from one another most especially when they are still waiting for the fruit of the labour as this could also caused Infertility in marriage.
Negative Impact of Infertility
Mrs Ayamolowo talked about the separation and divorce as some of the negatives impact caused by infertility in marriage in the society. While explaining, Mrs Ayamolowo said those that could not endure this ugly experience normally listen to series of negative counsel from outsiders and that one of the couple may some time involved in invidelity that would eventually led to impregnating a woman that would gave birth to them secretly since they can’t endure to wait for a long time in their marriage because of the infertility.
Other negative impact of the infertility could led to insult , nagging and fight all the times in the family . Also pressure may come from the mother inlaws as both of them may not be happy that their daughter didn’t give birth.
Solutions to infertility.
Mrs Ayamolowo identified series of medical solutions to address infertility to include sperm transplanting into the woman vergina to solve the problem of Infertility in the family. Some people may decided to go adoption of Child or children or if they are not buoyant enough to go for modern medical solutions for the infertility.She said most of these medical solutions for infertility due fails most of the time but some are still Lucky to get it done or successful after two or three times of attempts.
Her final advice was that aß a Christian, she said there was nothing God could not do that they should have faith in God and that at the appointed time God would answer them as their was no age one can not give birth if he can did to the Abraham in the Bible ,God can also do it to thise waiting unto the Lord. She advised the couple facing this kind challenge not to divorce or separate from their marriage as God can still do miracles in their life.
